When your spouse doesn't support your prepping

Could you shut the door on your family?

Couple sitting on couch in disagreement.

I was just watching a video on YouTube about Can you REALLY bug out? Some lessons and then clicked on a link the YouTuber provided to a book he had written. While reading the book description, there was a sentence that more or less stated that you need to have your spouse on board with your prepping. That lead to the thought that I do have a family member whose spouse is not on board concerning prepping. Which lead to me writing this blog. See how my mind works? LOL.

As I was thinking about having your spouse, significant other, family member or loved one on board with prepping and the possibility of bugging out, I remembered something I had said to this particular family member. The one whose spouse is not on board. I remembered talking to her about that very thing one day, and saying to her, "You know, you need to be prepared to make a decision on whether or not you would leave him behind if we had to bug out". She solemnly agreed that yes, she would have to be prepared to make such a decision. Well, you see, it's not only herself that she needs to be concerned about, but they also have a child who will still be living at home for several years. That would be one tough decision to make!

To me, in that situation, there is no doubt what I would decide. Although, it may seem that making the decision would be the hardest part; in my mind, following through with that decision would be the hardest part. I like to believe in this case, her spouse would have his eyes opened when things went down and would realize that she truly did know what she was talking about, and would be grateful she had done the prepping. However, that may not always be the case.

For instance, there may be people out there (and I'm sure there's a LOT of them) who would still believe that our government would take care of them and provide for them if something catastrophic on a national or near-national level happened. And, even though they would see what is happening, would still choose to stay sheltered in place and let the government sort things out and take care of them.

If you had a family member or a loved one who made the decision to shelter in place even when the need to evacuate was upon them, what would you do? Could you go, and leave them behind? I pray that none of us ever have to make that decision. But even then, our prayers aren't solely dependent upon God, because He will not force someone to believe something against their will. It will still be up to that person to decide what to do. I'm not trying to be a Debbie Downer, I'm just looking at it through the eyes of reality. So, what would you do?

Shutting the door

Door shut and locked with heavy chain

Then, there are those family members and loved ones who may know that you are a prepper and scoff at the idea of prepping. What would you do if those loved ones showed up at your door after SHTF? I've even read some comments on social media posts that said they would shut the door to those people and tell them to get lost, that they had their chance! My take on that horrid and selfish!!

Most likely, the first thing I would do when SHTF would be to seek out those family members and loved ones who live nearby. I would invite them to come to my home, and we would make do with what we had available. I don't have enough to feed all my family and loved ones for any large length of time, but I would not let them suffer and do without just so my supplies could last me a few days longer. Who knows, it may give us just enough time to come up with a plan for keeping everyone safe.

Even if they were still sheltering in place in their own homes when I felt it was time to bug out, I would contact them and invite them to come along with me. If they were in my home, I would also give them the choice to stay or go. I'm not saying everyone should be so open and loving to do this, I'm saying that's what I should do. However, I do believe that if you have any love in your heart at all, you will feel the same way I do. I'm not talking about total strangers here, I'm talking about family and loved ones! Then, if they chose not to bug out, it would be their choice and I would have to leave without them. That definitely would be the hardest part.

What would you do?

What would you do? Could you turn your back on your spouse, family, or loved ones and bug out if they decided to stay? Could you shut your door to them and turn them away if they showed up on your doorstep? These are some things we really need to consider and be prepared for. Because for the majority of us, this could be a reality one day. We may have to make one or more of those decisions, and I pray that we all make the right ones when that time comes.

Let me know what you would do, or any recommendations you may have, in the comments below. Thank you for reading this blog post 😊.

Until next time...happy prepping, and God bless!